Absalom Acts Out His Rebellion – From Inner Wounds to Conspiracy

522242_438110639533545_2070088432_nYesterday in our series on "The Life of David" we dealt with David's son Absalom, his wounding, shunning and his reaction that all led to the great rebellion Absalom led against his father. This is an eye opening study as there were 6 stages that leads to Absalom acting out his wounds. Here they are:

1. 2 Sam 13.1-19 - Amnon, David’s son thru Abigail, Absalom’s brother rapes his sister Tamar - incest and casts her out. 
The original wound = David is in a state of inaction over the incestuous violation of his daughter Tamar. Most likely because he has some what of a guilty conscience from his affair with Bathsheba.
2. 2 Sam 13.2-33 - David does not act to discipline Amnon so Absalom waits 2 years and conspires to kill his brother with his men and does so. The attempt to rectify = Absalom - a man with a type of a strong sense of justice as his father is deeply wounded for his sister. this wound festers for 2 years unhealed.  Finally Absalom takes matters into his own hands and with his men kill Amnon in vengeance for raping his sister. 
3. 2 Sam 13.34-39 - Absalom flees to his grandfather - the king of Geshur and lives there for 3 years. The festering wound = Absalom desperate for family connection in his pain and sense of justice less to his grandfather’s in Talmai. The separation from his father only causes a festering wound that is not being mollified. 

4. 2 Sam 14:1-24 - David allows Absalom to return to Jerusalem to his own house but not to see his face. The rejection = David reacts to amnion’s murder and shuns his son for 4 years while he is in Talmai with his grandfather. This compounds the pain as now Absalom has two wounds - the second being that he is rejected by his father. 

5. 2 Sam 14.33 - David finally allows his son who is highly favored and loved by many in Israel because of his winning personality and good looks - to come into his presence but only on a formal filial level. The festering continues with no reconciliation = The festering wound in Absalom grows as he is gravely disappointed in his meeting with his father. He was wanting more. 

6. 2 Sam 15.1-12 The conspiracy begins. The final blow = Finally after he has his moment to see his father - with no reconciliation seals the inner poison bomb.

Absalom had a wounded spirit - Proverbs 18.14 - The spirit of a man will sustain his infirmity; but a wounded spirit who can bear

The writer of Hebrews writes describing the destructive power of bitterness and unhealed wound and how it destroys those closet to us - Hebrew 15.15-16 - "Strive to live in peace with everybody and pursue that consecration and holiness without which no one will [ever] see the Lord. Exercise foresight and be on the watch to look [after one another], to see that no one falls back from and fails to secure God’s grace (His unmerited favor and spiritual blessing), in order that no root of resentment (rancor, bitterness, or hatred) shoots forth and causes trouble and bitter torment, and the many become contaminated and defiled by it—That no one may become guilty of sexual vice" - (Ampl)

The wounds Absalom has were bitterness due to sexual vice - when Amnon his brother raped hi sister Tamar. 
What was Absalom to do? When we are wounded and victimized by life, people and situations we must learn what to do with those wounds. Otherwise they cause a root of bitterness and defile many that we love. 
The answer is this: we take "all our stuff", our anger, all the reasons we are hurt, what people did to us, how we were mistreated, how we were betrayed, how we failed and all of it - and leave it at the foot of the Cross of Jesus Christ. There we find Jesus took it, He took it 2000 years ago, and crucified it at the cross. It is no longer ours to remember, to poses to us as our crutch or chip on our shoulder. There we are set free from it and we can be healed by the love and forgiveness of Christ.

Friends, this is our only option. Lest we stop receiving grace and a root of bitterness springs up hurting many around us.

What to do when you are Offended







Remember these things next time you feel offended:

1. Never, ever withdraw. No matter how hurt you are
2. 9 times out of 10 we simply misunderstood what was said and didn't see the heart behind what was said
3. Always wait 24 hours before you answer a matter
4. People say hurtful things because they are hurting themselves.
5. Never take things personally, ever. It's not about you. You just happened to be in the path of a bitter person.
6. Take criticism with a smile.
7. Do not give an offended person a platform to speak their mind. They will only infect others. Speak privately with them.
8. When you are offended it is a tell-tale fact that a part of your flesh is still dominating your soul without the Cross. Only the self-centered old sin nature can get offended.
9. When you're tired, hurting or in pain you most likely are the most vulnerable to be offended.
10. Even though it was said in a hurtful way or improperly, ask yourself this question "was it true what they said" and if so deal with it alone with God.

When we get offended, no matter the circumstance, we can know for sure that the symptom of offense that we feel is a sure sign we have uncrucified flesh reigning somewhere in our soul.

If  the Word of God offends us agree with it quickly - Jesus spoke beforehand that his disciples would have Divine Definition so that when offense came they would not be scandalized. Matthew 5:25-26 "Agree with thine adversary quickly, while thou art in the way with him; lest at any time the adversary deliver thee to the judge, and the judge deliver thee to the officer, and thou be cast into prison. Verily I say unto thee, Thou shalt by no means come out thence, till thou hast paid the uttermost farthing"

Psalms 119:165
Great peace have they which love thy law:and nothing shall offend them.

Matthew 24:10
And then many will be offended and repelled and will begin to distrust and desert [Him Whom they ought to trust and obey] and will stumble and fall away and betray one another and pursue one another with hatred.

Proverbs 18:19
A brother offended is harder to be won than a strong city:and their contentions are like the bars of a castle.

Matthew 11:6
And blessed is he, whosoever shall not be offended in me.

Matthew 15:12-14
Then came his disciples, and said unto him, Knowest thou that the Pharisees were offended, after they heard this saying?
But he answered and said, Every plant, which my heavenly Father hath not planted, shall be rooted up.
Let them alone:they be blind leaders of the blind. And if the blind lead the blind, both shall fall into the ditch.

Matthew 26:31-35
Prediction About Peter’s Denial
(Mark 14:27- 31; Luke 22:31- 34; John 13:36- 38)
Then saith Jesus unto them, All ye shall be offended because of me this night:for it is written, I will smite the shepherd, and the sheep of the flock shall be scattered abroad.
But after I am risen again, I will go before you into Galilee.
-- Peter answered and said unto him, Though all men shall be offended because of thee, yet will I never be offended.
Jesus said unto him, Verily I say unto thee, That this night, before the cock crow, thou shalt deny me thrice.
Peter said unto him, Though I should die with thee, yet will I not deny thee. Likewise also said all the disciples.

Mark 4:17
And have no root in themselves, and so endure but for a time:afterward, when affliction or persecution ariseth for the word’s sake, immediately they are offended.

Mark 6:3
Is not this the carpenter, the son of Mary, the brother of James, and Joses, and of Juda, and Simon? and are not his sisters here with us? And they were offended at him.

John 16:1
These things have I spoken unto you, that ye should not be offended.

2 Corinthians 11:29
Who is weak, and I am not weak? who is offended, and I burn not?

John 6:65-68
And he said, Therefore said I unto you, that no man can come unto me, except it were given unto him of my Father.
From that time many of his disciples went back, and walked no more with him.
Then said Jesus unto the twelve, Will -- ye also go away?
Then Simon Peter answered him, Lord, to whom shall we go? thou hast the words of eternal life.

Rom 5.5 the love of God sheds abroad in our hearts
Self love is easily wounded. It is so geared to its own self and self consciousness and is not easily healed. Overly occupied with myself everyday and how much I should be loved, valued and needed. Cain was wounded hurt, offended and never healed.
We have to leave ourselves to discover this love. Love one another as I have loved you.



The Paradox of His Strength made perfect in our Weakness

Thinking tonight of the great paradox and mystery of the Anointing.  David the shepherd not having the crown but was anointed king yet in great straits of weakness - 2 Sam 3:39a. Elijah, a mighty man of God - the "Prophet of Fire" was "subject (homoiopathḗs) to like passions as we are" - meaning he was liable to be affected by the same thing any human being is. Yet he prayed. Paul though weak with the thorn afflicting him served in the power of his spirit - Rom 1.9 because God's Grace sustained him. Jesus Himself was crucified in weakness yet lives by the power of God...Oh what a paradox! We do not grow stronger everyday with God, but rather as the years pass we grow weaker and weaker - more and more dependent on God, His Grace and His Word to bring us to the end of The Race with joy. "For though he was crucified through weakness, yet he liveth by the power of God. For we also are weak in him, but we shall live with him by the power of God toward you" 2 Cor 13.4 - Thus the power of the Anointing may be of Him and not of ourselves. Otherwise we have no affective ministry to others.

Inner Healing - Some thoughts on a Damaged Soul

Recently observing a dear person I began praying for their "soul situation" and asked God for insight to help. Here are a few musing on the subject which are not by any-means exhaustive but something that I'd like to study more preach about this month of February.

Isaiah 1.6 - From the sole of the foot even unto the head there is no soundness in it [the soul]; but wounds, and bruises, and putrifying sores: they have not been closed, neither bound up, neither mollified with ointment. - (brackets mine)

It’s unimaginable the pain and suffering people have experienced in their lives because they were victims of prevalent evil in this world. The depth of the damage that has been caused deep in people’s souls can be described in Proverbs 18.8 as "wounds that go down into the innermost parts of the emotions (belly)”. This injury hurts and causes the most destruction to the innocent soul when it is caused by people we love in circles of trust and safety. The greater question though is how the damaged goods are healed rather than the wallowing in the pool of the injustice that is done; which can be so consoling and oddly satisfying. Because of the  "wounds that go down into the innermost parts of the emotion” are not healed than the following verse applies in verse 9 - passivity and paralysis comes into dominate the hurting soul and the "Waster of Souls” wins.

When there is no “mollification” - no healing ointment then what substitutes the healing is protectiveness and an underlying drive in some cases to lash out or campaign against the injustice done to them. This reaction continues to grow and fester in Isaiah 1.6 resulting in an inner motive that affects all other parts of a person’s soul. It may even manifest itself in a religious endeavor or a self-justifying cause looking to others for support in their self-righteous movement.

The true problem is they need desperately to be understood in their suffering and they want to be heard - someone to feel their pain with them though they may fiercely refuse it because of an advanced state of bitterness. We know that there is only One who has suffered untold loads of pain and suffering and that is mankind’s Savior Jesus. When the Spirit of Jesus and the Words of His comfort are allowed deep into the injured part of our soul via identification, compassion and understanding, then inner healing and “mollification” begins and the damaged soul can heal to become a very effective person in ministering to others. At that point a vision can come into the once paralyzed soul and a capacity of faith can enable with the motive of God’s Love. 

People cannot self-heal. The self-healing is a substitute for true healing. What is needed is to allow the process of the Spirit of Comfort and the Word of His Healing to be allowed to go deep and recreate the ruins of the soul and make a person a brand-new creation. They need to enter into a Body of Believers that are Christ-centered, Finished-Work thinkers that create an environment of love, faith and safety where they as Lazarus can slowly have the death-bandages taken off that still linger binding them though they have been spiritually resurrected from the dead.